Blogpost 2 – First draft

Interpersonal conflicts will inevitably arise due to misunderstandings or miscommunication between people. This can occur across any forms of relationships, be it between spouses, friends or colleagues. As a whole, conflict is healthy. It serves as a balancing mechanism in relationships. However, constant conflicts left unanswered can fester and become a negative influence on the lives of people involved. It can easily cause hostility and deep resentment if proper steps are not done to improve the quality of the relationship.

One such example of conflict can occur between spouses. In this hypothetical example, a wife notices her husband coming home from work uncharacteristically late. He did not even send her a text message saying that he will be working late that night. Understandably, the upset wife confronts her husband about his late return and demands to know what he was doing the whole time. The husband, weary from his long day at work, simply brushed her off and said that he is tired. His wife then starts berating him as she waited the whole night for his return to have dinner together. Husband retorts that she could have eaten first without him and this cumulated into a full-blown quarrel.

Some possible causes of this conflict may be a lack of cooperativeness between the two parties. In this case, both parties can be more accommodating towards each other instead of their current hostility. It’s human nature to want to avoid conflict. But sometimes, we forget or let our negative emotions override our logical thinking process. This will create conflicts that are undesired but undoubtedly of our own doing.

My thoughts about this issue is that the husband should be more caring towards his wife as he knows that it is their routine to have dinner every night together. It is easy for him to drop a text or just make a simple call back home to tell his wife to have dinner first. He should be more aware that his wife has not had dinner yet and should be more forgiving towards her and give a proper reply instead. On the other hand, the wife can take the initiative and send the text or call instead. The wife should be sensible enough to talk about this when husband is less fatigued. This will solve the miscommunication issue between the two parties.

If you are either party in this situation, what would you do? Is lack of communication the root issue here or is there something else under the surface causing these problems? You can write your recommendations or thoughts in the comments below.

Blogpost 1 – third revision

Communication can come in a variety of forms and often used as a tool for expression. This can be applied in our daily lives, be it communicating with family or strangers. Through learning about communication, I feel that my strength in communication lies within the ability to express myself succinctly. This can be credited to working in sales related jobs for the bulk of my part time working life. As a salesperson, I needed to know my products well and to market it to potential buyers. The secret of the trade is to convince your consumers to think they need a certain product even if they don’t really want it. That is the beauty of having good communication skills in sales.

Another strength I possess is the knowledge to write persuasively. Having a good command of vocabulary certainly helps a great deal with my essay and letter writing. This skill set is utilized to great effect when I am required to communicate with corporations to achieve my objectives. Often, this helped me a great deal when I must achieve certain objectives from a company or even giving feedback with regards to corporation’s’ operations through electronic mail. Continuous improvement of my communication skills through communicating with experienced professionals allows me a higher bargaining and negotiation power.

However, the path to obtaining good communication skills does present its own set of challenges at the very beginning. One such challenge I found was having to phrase thoughts in a way that will not offend the recipient. Many times, we as communicators fail to consider the feelings of those we are trying to communicate with. As a result, our words may unintentionally hurt the other party through misunderstandings.

One other challenge will be my lack of experience in a certain field, placing me at a disadvantage when communicating with others. Experience cannot be bought or learnt quickly. It is the result of a long process whereby people learn appropriate responses to situations through examples and failure. Cultural difference is one such example where I must learn to be sensitive towards others from different backgrounds.

Finally, the two objectives I have set for myself are to learn to communicate without causing unintentional offense, as well as to communicate well in a context without going off topic. These are useful skills to have and will be the best intended result for me to be an all rounded communicator.

Blogpost 2 – Non verbal communication

Non-verbal communication comes in many forms. Many times, non-verbal communication convey messages that may be different from what someone is saying verbally. We can pick this up from a person’s facial expression, body language or even personal grooming. With this in mind, we have to be careful of how we portray ourselves as most people pay more attention to the things left unsaid.

On one occasion, I had the opportunity to witness a type of non verbal communication in action. Accenting are cues that underline or highlight a verbal message and is most often used when people are feeling angry. This incident happened when my classmate entered class almost half an hour late. My teacher angrily demanded when he was late, and without waiting for his reply, she turned around and threw a whiteboard duster at him. This action underlines her anger that can also be found in her words towards him.

Another type of non verbal communication can be found in this incident. The victim of the whiteboard duster throwing incident kept quiet and just stood in the corner while the teacher angrily berated him. Being quiet is also a non verbal cue as the classmate substituted his hurt for silence even when he was physically attacked.

These incidents are just part and parcel of our daily lives. This highlights the importance of identifying non verbal cues so as to understand the different reactions that people around us take when confronted with any situation. Furthermore, the abundance of non verbal cues in this one incident alone only shows how much we may miss if we do not pay attention to what’s around us.

 

Com 150 – Blogpost 1 (Final Edit)

Communication can come in a variety of forms and often used as a tool for expression. I feel that my strength in communication lies within the ability to express myself succinctly. This can be credited to working in sales related jobs for the bulk of my part time working life. As a salesperson, I needed to  know my products well and to market it across to potential buyers. The secret of the trade is to convince your consumers to think they need a certain product even if they don’t really want it. That is the beauty of having good communication skills in sales.

Another strength I possess is the knowledge to write persuasively. Having a good command of vocabulary certainly help a great deal with my essay and letter writing. This skill set is utilized to great effect when I am required to communicate with corporations to achieve my objectives. Often, this helped me a great deal when I must achieve certain objectives from a company or even giving feedback with regards to corporation’s’ operations through electronic mail. Good communication allows me to sound trustworthy and this often allows me a higher bargaining and negotiation power.

However, the path to obtaining good communication skills does present its own set of challenges at the very beginning. One such challenge I found was having to phrase thoughts in a way that will not offend the recipient. Many times, we as communicators fail to consider the feelings of those we are trying to communicate with. As a result, our words may unintentionally hurt the other party.

One other challenge will be my lack of experience in a certain field. This will put me at a disadvantage when communicating with others. Experience cannot be bought or learnt quickly. It is the result of a long process whereby people learn appropriate responses to situations through examples and failure.

In view of this, the two objectives I have set for myself are to gain enough knowledge to communicate without causing unintentional offense as well as to communicate well in a context without going off topic. These are useful skills to have and will be the best intended result for me to be an all rounded communicator.

Blog assignment 1: Strengths and challenges in Communicating [Final]

I feel that my strength in communication lies within the ability to express myself succinctly. This can be credited to working in sales related jobs for the bulk of my part time working life. As a salesperson, it is important to know your products well and to market it across to potential buyers. The secret of the trade is to convince your consumers to think they need a certain product even if they don’t really want it. That is the beauty of having good communication skills in sales.

Another strength I possess is the knowledge to write persuasively. Having a good command of vocabulary certainly help a great deal with my essay and letter writing. This skill set is utilized to great effect when I am required to communicate with corporations to achieve my objectives. Often, this helped me a great deal when I must achieve certain objectives from a company or even leaving feedback with regards to corporation’s’ operations through electronic mail. Good communication allows me to sound trustworthy and this often allows me a higher bargaining and negotiation power.

However, the path to obtaining good communication skills does present its own set of challenges at the very beginning. One such challenge I found was having to phrase your thoughts in a way that will not offend the recipient. Many times, we as communicators fail to consider the feelings of those we are trying to communicate with. As a result, our words may unintentionally hurt the other party.

One other challenge will be my lack of experience in a certain field. This will put me at a disadvantage when communicating with others. Experience cannot be bought or learnt quickly. It is the result of a long process whereby people learn appropriate responses to situations through examples and failure.

In view of this, the two objectives I have set for myself are to gain enough knowledge to communicate without causing unintentional offense as well as to communicate well in a context without going off topic. These are useful skills to have and will be the best intended result for me to be an all rounded communicator.

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Strengths and Challenges in Communicating

I feel that my strength in communication lies within the ability to express myself succinctly. This may be due to the fact that I have been in sales for the bulk of my part time working life. As a salesperson, it is important to know your products well and also to market it across to potential buyers. The secret to this trade is to make your consumers want something even if they don’t really need it. That is the beauty of having good communication skills in sales.

Another strength I think I possess is the knowledge to write persuasively. Having a good command of vocabulary certainly helps a great deal with my email or letter writing. This skill set is utilized to great effect when I am required to communicate with corporations achieve my objectives. Many times, this helped me a great deal when I have to obtain something from a certain company or even leaving feedback with regards to their operation through electronic mail. Good communication allows me to sound trustworthy and this often open the necessary doors metaphorically.

However, the path to obtaining good communication skills does present it’s own set of challenges at the very beginning. One such challenge I found was having to phrase your thoughts in a way that will not be offensive to the recipient. Many times, we as communicators fail to take into account the feelings of those we are trying to communicate with. As a result, our words may unintentionally be hurtful to the other party.

One other challenge will be my lack of experience in a certain field. This will put me at a disadvantage when communicating with others. Experience can not be bought or learnt quickly. It is the result of a long process where by people learn the ways to respond to a certain situation through examples and also though failure.

In view of this, the two objectives I have set for myself are to gain enough knowledge to communicate without causing unintentional hard feelings as well as to communicate well in a context without going off topic.  This will be the best intended result for me to be an all rounded communicator.